Are there monsters under your bed?
3 ways to banish them
Remember when you were a little kid and you were sure there were monsters under your bed? Big, scary, monsters that were just waiting until mom and dad left to devour you?
“Read me one more story”, you’d beg.
And even though you’re an adult now- admit it- sometimes you still feel like a kid tormented by the fearful monsters. Only now, they aren’t under your bed- they’re in your head! Ok, so maybe I’m the only one that feels this way from time to time, but just in case I’m not, let’s talk about what you can to do with those monsters in your head.
II find that people often get hung up on HOW. How can I do this? They yearn for a step-by-step approach in order to feel comfortable moving ahead.
We all need this.
Step-by-step approaches whether we create them ourselves or follow others, make what’s overhwelming, simple and doable. It’s a way to “see” ourselves making the journey, taking the action and being successful.
But what’s really interesting to me is how often we can have a step-by-step process and still procrastinate, still not do what we know to do. When that happens I know a client is in the grip of the monsters in his/her head.
What can you do when you are sure those monsters are real?
1. Just notice them.
Step out of fear for a moment and name the monster. Seriously, give it a silly name. Worthless Willy, Not good enough Nellie, You’ll never succeed Sally. Have you seen this monster before? What does it say? How does it behave? Be curious. It’s hard to feel fear and curiousity at the same time.
2. What triggers this one to come out of hiding?
As a kid your fears were often more intense when you were tired and it was dark. Is that true today? What situations and elements bring out your monsters?
3. Tell yourself a new story
It’s difficult to tell yourself a new story when what you are facing seems so real. By doing the above two actions you become aware that it is just a story. When you know what that story is you can begin telling a new one.
I’d love to meet your monsters. Maybe we can have a monster party. What names did you come up with? Who would we invite?
Seriously, I’d love to know. Email me and I’ll publish the most creative monster names (with or without your name- your choice).
And that leads to my bonus 4th way to banish the monsters in your head: realize that none of us is truly in the dark alone.