Are you hiding behind Nice?

June 25th, 2011 by Patty Bear

I’ve talked about showing up as being consistent, and that is so important.  But now I’m going to challenge you to really SHOW UP!

‘Do you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no?  Agreeing with someone when you really don’t? Or doing what they prefer?

You are so nice!

Hey, nice is easy.  Anybody can be nice.

Ok, apparently not everybody. But admit it; being nice is safe. If you’re nice people tend not to get mad at you as easily or blame you when things go wrong.  How could they?  You’re so nice!

If you’re really nice, perhaps you believe that if you pay attention to others’ needs they’ll take care of yours- without you even having to ask?  Have you noticed that this isn’t happening yet?  But, you insist, eventually they will.  It’s just not your turn yet.  It’s just not the right time, but it will be.

Sweetheart, go get a cup of coffee and wake up from this dream.

It’s never going to be your turn.

Why?  Because everybody knows “nice” people don’t have any needs.

Or maybe you think that by being “nice” you’ll escape criticism or controversy?

Oh,  you’ll escape a lot of things by being nice- most of all your life.  I’ve yet to see anybody for whom nice came anywhere close to describing who they really were or what they had to offer the world.  Nice is the bland mask that many of us hide behind. It’s a poor substitute for the real you.

This month take a tiny step out of nice: say what you really want, set a boundary, wear something that feels controversial, give  the world the benefit of your unasked for opinion, say no, say yes, say something that you’ve been afraid to say.

There’s a whole wide world out there beyond nice and it’s just waiting for you to show up!

Can’t wait to see you!


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