Are you prepared for success- mentally and emotionally?
Last month I answered a question from a reader about preparation as the key to success in the context of time management. I talked about how important preparation was to a healthy relationship with time and ultimately success. But there’s another element of preparation and that’s in your beliefs.
So here’s part 2 of that answer.
Preparation for success, mentally and emotionally, is being in vibrational alignment with success. It’s believing that you deserve it ,and are capable of having and holding it. when it arrives. Without this alignment it will be frustratingly in reach but never quite there. So how do you get in vibrational alignment? It sounds kind of funky.
Vibrational alignment is another way to think of flow. If you want to suceed at something but you’re not taking any action you’re not in alignment are you? If you want to move forward but you don’t have a plan and you’re just working really hard, you’re not in the flow. You’ll be spinning your wheels and suffering needlessly. Of course, if you have a plan and you’re working on it steadily but you believe you’ll have to give up too much in the process you’ll stay in a pattern of struggle and always just out of reach of what you want.
Vibrational alignment or flow arises out of aligned beliefs, planning (time management being one part) and consistent, joyful action. What you think determines how you feel and how you feel determines how much you struggle and ultimately what you accomplish.
Interesiingly enough, many of the intrusions on our time and how we handle them, shine a spotlight on the very beliefs that are out of vibrational alignment with our soul-level goals.
For most women we’ve been trained to see our value in relation to how much we do for other people rather than our intrinsic value (WHO we are in the biggest most abundant sense of the word). And because of that our boundaries around time, money, other people’s judgments, and our own sense of worth are very porous.
It also sets up and ongoing struggle with success and money. If we’re only valuable as long as we’re giving then, ironically, there’s no space to receive what we most want.
Giving and receiving are a healthy dance. If you are always giving those muscles are going to get tired and feel like: resentment, anger, rage, despair, despression…
You can begin to strenghten your receiving muscles by looking at your beliefs around giving, receiving, worth, value, and money- and preparing new ones.
There is one myth that we’re called to confront again and again in our relationship with people and with time. That myth is that I am somehow more able and more responsible for meeting other people’s needs than they are. This belief is something that I operated under in a big way for many years at a heavy cost and didn’t even realize it. Today I am much better at setting boundaries in my time but still find myself caught off guard occasionally by some of the “master needers” in my life.