The Big O
I’d like to extend a warm welcome to all our new subscribers and to provide you a short introduction to this newsletter followed by today’s topic: The Big O.
As my long time subscribers know, I generally get right down to business with this newsletter, offering a fresh perspective for whatever goal you are working on right now. You have also become very familiar with the concept of flow and how applying that to any goal makes reaching some of your biggest goals, lighter, easier, and much more achievable. For those clients who are in my email checkin program, you are well trained in the principle of getting specific- and the powerful results this tiny shift can produce!
So after much thought I’ve decided to get more specific myself and to narrow the focus of my coaching to demonstrating how the method of FLOW is applied to ending the pain around chronic dieting and the struggle with weight loss that consumes so much of our time, energy, and self-esteem.
It is a pain that I am intimately familiar with having jumped from diet to diet and spent far too many years counting calories, fat, workouts, and all that. And then after having spent decades obsessing about weight, 7 years ago I lost 2 dresses without trying. It was this experience that opened my eyes and showed me that there might be an easier way of doing a whole lot of things we think of as “hard”. And it was from my experience with natural weight loss that the concept of Flow was born.
So in a way it’s really returning to the roots of Flow myself in order to get more specific in business. For long time subscribers you won’t see a big change in this newsletter because the principles of Flow are universal to all people and all goals.
For new subscribers who may be accustomed to getting tips on weight loss or working out, I will do that from time to time, but what makes permanent weight loss really easy is a lighter mindset that leads to lighter habits. We are constantly overwhelmed by the latest , greatest diet and lots of tips associated with that. Unfortunately, it often leads to a constant focus on what is outside of us and that leads us to a hypervigilance around food and ourselves. Permanent, easy weight loss comes from the inside out and from learning to trust yourself around food.
The focus of this newsletter has always been about lighter ways of thinking, doing, and being. It’s about finding the tailwinds in life- about not making things harder than they have to be.
So a great big warm welcome to new and old friends alike. I’m thrilled to have you on this journey with me. Please enjoy today’s article.
The Big ‘O’- where’s your focus?
The big O- obstacles or opportunities……..
Oh, I’m sorry did you think I was talking about something else? No, not today- maybe next year.
Today, I want to ask you to ponder for a moment how you usually see life and how that impacts your experience of everday ecstacy..
So, the question is:
Are you more aware of obstacles or opportunities?
When you think about something you want to be, do or have: do you go right to, “hmmm, I wonder how that might happen”, or to “HOW is that possible”? Do you have a prove it to me first mindset, or a curious, can do mindset.?
Be honest- what’s your default setting? There are no gold stars for the “right” answer. The only right answer is the honest one for you, because without non-judgmental awareness we stay in the same old unconscious cycles, or our judgment about ourselves keeps us in resistance to something new.
So while you’re thinking about that, let’s look at a real life example of obstacles and opportunities. You probably remember reading about Captain “Sully” Sullenberger landing his crippled airplane in the Hudson River.
He’d lost both engines to a flock of birds shortly after takeoff and was staring at all of the tall buildings in New York City, a bridge and a river below. But no runway.
He was offered a small airport several miles away and considered it, before realizing they’d almost certainly not reach it since they were already losing altitude. As he looked around, it became clear that in this sea of obstacles, the river was really an opportunity. He took it and saved the lives of everyone onboard.
Now you might say, “sure, but that was an emergency , he did a great job, but he had to find a way, he had no other option.” Well, don’t we often have situations where we feel like we don’t have any other options? And it doesn’t necessarily cause us to move beyond seeing only the obstacles. We can get stuck in what won’t work- sometimes for years. I’ve been there and done that.
By focusing on obstacles we are saying “here are all of the things that I can’t do”. A focus on opportunities says,” I don’t know how that’s possible, but if it were, how might it happen?
Think about something specific that you’d really like to be, do, or have. Got it?
Now when you look around, see the tall buildings of obstacles surrounding you. It’s ok, don’t be scared. Those obstacles are just framing the opportunities
Now look again. Where is your river of opportunities?